New members – New stories – New website

Recently we have had more new members join which is really exciting, not only because it introduces a different energy into the club but also it provides an opportunity to share more stories and experiences. Our stories and experiences are our shared life blood and play a significant role in helping us understand each other, they support our memories and enable us all to connect in more meaningful ways which, in today's technological world, has increasing importance.

How you communicate your story is  very important and can determine the difference between success and failure. Let's look at the job interview, as an example, is this just a "job interview" or is it an opportunity for you to meaningfully engage with the interviewer to influence them and persuade them you are the right person for the job? Or an internal negotiation at work, when you're vying for scarce resources in order to help your team achieve its objectives. Some people may question what these have to do with "public speaking" and I would suggest that it has everything to do with it. Of course, you are not necessarily standing up and talking to an audience but you are communicating and similar rules apply. There is a beginning, a middle and an end, to every interview, as there is to a negotiation a story or a speech, and it is vital that one considers these things carefully if the desired outcome (call to action) is to influence and persuade the interviewer to say, yes.

So, while you the reader, may not see yourself standing up and delivering speeches to small or large gatherings, there is value in increasing your confidence, learning to communicate more effectively and exploring how to influence and persuade people when you want to achieve something.

Tunbridge Wells Speakers have something we want to achieve, which is to help people develop these skills within a relaxed, encouraging and friendly environment. To help us achieve this we are currently reviewing our website to see how we can improve how we communicate with our audience, you.

Hope to see you at one of our meetings.



Top 10 Speaking Tips

Feeling nervous before giving a prepared speech is natural and can be beneficial.

To deliver a great performance you’ll need to get those butterflies under control. Here are some tips to help:

1. Know your material

Pick a topic you are interested in. Research the topic so that you know more about it than you can or want to include in your prepared speech. Use humour, personal stories and conversational language to tell your story (deliver your speech). This approach will help you to remember your speech.

2. Practice…

Practice. Practice. Practice!

There really is no substitute for rehearsing out loud with all equipment you plan on using. I personally use and recommend the use of a video camera to record myself and review my performance (in private of course!).

Amend your speech and performance as needed. It’s amazing how you’ll be able to control those, er, erm, filler words;

Practice pausing at relevant points in your speech and PLEASE remember to breathe. When practicing use a timer and allow time for the unexpected. Speeches are usually allowed a minimum, mid and maximum time, like 5 to 7 minutes. For a 5 to 7 minute speech I aim for just over 6 minutes. The lights usually at the back of the room (Green Amber & Red on 5, 6 & 7 minutes really help)

3. Know your audience

Greet some of the audience members as they arrive. It’s easier to speak to a group of friends than to strangers.

4. Know the room

Arrive early, walk around the speaking area and practice using the microphone if there is one and any visual aids like flip charts, props and computer presentations.

5. Relax

Begin by addressing the audience. It buys you time and calms your nerves. Pause, smile and count to three before saying anything. (“One one-thousand, two one-thousand, three one-thousand. Pause. Begin.) Transform nervous energy into enthusiasm.

6. Visualise yourself giving your speech

Imagine yourself speaking, your voice loud, clear and confident. Visualise the audience clapping – it will boost your confidence.

7. People want you to succeed

Audiences want you to be interesting, stimulating, informative and entertaining. They’re rooting for you.

8. Don’t apologise

for any nervousness or problem – the audience probably never noticed it.

9. Concentrate on the message

not the medium. Focus your attention away from your own anxieties and concentrate on your message and your audience.

10. Gain experience

Mainly, your speech should represent you, as an authority and as a person. Experience builds confidence, which is the key to effective speaking. A Toastmasters club can provide the experience you need in a safe and friendly environment.