The power of following up with people….

Since the middle of this year, Tunbridge Wells Speakers Club has had a push on getting new members. The question was, where can we find people looking to improve their speaking skills and confidence. We know it is a common fear amongst people but there is a difference between you being aware of a fear and actually doing something about it! The folowing few lines are about how we did it and what were the lessons we learnt. To summarise our lessons they have been:

  1. Follow up with people
  2. Follow up with people
  3. Follow up with people

The most obvious place to boost numbers was to chase up the membership that we already had. Emails, texts and phone calls were successful in encouraging members to meetings, on average we were getting 50% of the members attending. As it was always uncertain if some members were going to attend by chasing them up we had a very clear idea of who was coming. The reason why this is important is because at a Toastmasters meeting there are numerous roles that need to be filled which help the evening run in a slick professional manner. Roles such as time keeper, grammarian, toastmaster, speech evaluators, general evaluator and more. If you have not been to a meeting these descriptions are explained here. So that was the first lesson learnt!

However, that was not enough, so secondly, we then asked the question, where can we find people who are keen to join and are actively looking? We decided to try ‘Meet Up’, a global website which has a whole variety of different social groups on it which people can search for to find something of interest near them. This has a been a great success and has brought in a number of new members. That said, it was not plain sailing, some people joined our Meet Up group but did not engage or attend any meetings. As a result, we have been somewhat ruthless and given people about 5 opportunities to engage and then said to them we will remove them from the group. By following up with everyone we have had numerous members join, these were the active members in the Meet Up group and this has carried over and they have been very active in the Speakers Club. It has been a pleasure to welcome them and have them contribute.

Next, we had our website. Unfortunately, this was not working correctly for a number of months, but the good news was, we got that fixed. As a result pretty much straight away we had enquiries. Now, can you guess what we did next, yes, correct. By following up with people and chatting to them and finding out what they wanted, they came along to meetings and a number have joined.

To quote the phrase often absent from NASA laboratories, ‘it isn’t rocket science’. We now have a membership which has grown by 65% in 5 months and on average we get 3-4 new guests per meeting. I chuckled as only the other day I was talking to someone in the bank and mentioned about the speakers club and having explained it to him, he is keen to come along. If I don’t hear from him, I will be following up with him and who knows, perhaps another new member !!

The lessons here have application to multiple businesses, following up is vital. The next bit of the puzzle in sales, is having a good product. At Tunbridge Wells Speakers, if you came along, you will be greeted with a smile and a friendly face, you will get the chance to observe what goes on and join in if you want to. You will among people who are keen to get better at public speaking and the evenings are enjoyable. So far that is our winning formula and if you read this and want to come along then please contact us here.

You can be rest assured if you do….we will follow you up!

Share

What’s the worst that can happen….oh no, it just happened !!

Before June this year I had no idea that there was a worldwide network of clubs where you could learn the art and skill of public speaking. A quick google told me about Toastmasters which generates all sorts of ideas about what ‘they are’….. a focused bunch of cooked bread enthusiasts …..a formally dressed group of town criers, protectors of hop drying oast houses who like a hot beverage before work….. the list goes on.

However, I discovered they are a group of friendly individuals who share a passion for mastering the art of speaking in public, something a large proportion of the world fear and one that can be overcome.  More so I discovered there are competitions you can enter to pit your speaking skills against others and so….I had a go. Now I, like many others, like winning and so I thought the main aim here is to win and therein lies the lesson I learnt because, I didn’t win, and as a result I think I learnt more…. I’ll explain.

The area different levels of competition and in the one I entered, the humorous speech contest, it goes up to the final where you compete against the best of the South of England. I won the local club and area contest and then went for South East England and got Second. Now the lesson learnt there was, my mind has never gone blank before that day, I stood up and spoke, it all worked. On that day, I said my first line and my mind went blank, nothing! So, standing on a stage, staring at an audience of 70 people I stopped, took a breath and waited, nothing……. panic started to rise. I decided to stay calm and start again, whatever happened inside, it kick started my mind and the second line came to me and off I went. Now if it had all gone smoothly I wouldn’t have had the reassurance that if I trusted my mind and importantly stayed calm, it gave me the next line. What’s the worst that can happen, well for me, the worst happened, and I got over it, some people didn’t notice! Despite that, I got second place, but that wasn’t enough to progress to the next round. You might think that is the end of the story and I went home dejected, however, far from it, read on….

At the next round I got for the first time, as an observer I got to see what I thought truly excellent speakers were like, so professional and skilled in the art of captivating an audience, making them laugh and telling a beautiful story in the process. If I had be competing I think I would have been lost in my world of thinking about my speech and not been able to view their speeches objectively and the lesson would have been lost.

I believe I am not at the winners’ standard, yet. That said, I learnt a huge amount from watching them and I am going to take these lessons and apply them to my next contest entry. Next time I aim to be on the winners’ podium and if I am, a good chunk of that will be because I lost this time and as a result, I learnt more.

So the lesson here is, the worst thing I can imagine in my public speaking journey happened and, I survived and I am better as a result.   I wonder how many others might actually benefit from the worst thing they can imagine with respect to public speaking  becoming a reality. I know if you had said that to me before, I certainly wouldn’t have believed you but I am grateful and better as a result and you know, the worst that can happen really wasn’t that bad. Isn’t that what our parents and others often tell us!

So if you have been putting off public speaking because you think how bad it might be, then have a go, because even if it happened you will learn from it and probably be better as a result.

 

 

Share

Presenting to an audience is a skill and it can be learnt…

….so Simon Bucknall, who took 2nd place at the 2017 World Championship in Vancouver, wrote on his website.

I was reflecting on this on Tuesday at the last meeting of the Tunbridge Wells Speakers Club as we had 4 speakers which spanned the range of things possible with attendance at the club.

We had Rachel completing her ice breaker speech, the first speech you do as part of the training programme. It is designed, through guidance on structure and deliver, to introduce you, a topic we are often all quite good at talking about! We learnt about how her wardrobe does not seemingly mirror that in the famous CS Lewis book, how the grass is not always greener and how we should marry for love, especially if Colin Firth is asking.

We then heard from Charlie who was completing the 7th speech in the manual and this brought a different tone, his informative speech explored the current housing market and its future, especially for first time buyers, a sobering message but with some light at the end of the tunnel.

We then had Simon and myself practising our competition speeches for an area contest this weekend.

The evening was then topped off by Table Topics, which is the impromptu 1-2 min speech section where guests and members are invited to speak on a topic they have just been given. The Table Topics master was Richard P and he dished out the topic of cliques and brave as lions, a number of people came up to the front at the speed of light and waxed lyrical. It was the charisma and linguistic talents of Richard G who won and he spoke on ‘giving it 110%’ in his words, actions and vocal range.

As such I thought reflecting on that meeting was an excellent example of how anyone could engage with Toastmasters, from the very start or working through the training materials. There are the contests if you are competitive or simply the Table Topics for having a go and not having to prepare.

Hopefully there is something in here that helps encourage you to find a meeting wherever that is and learn the fun that can be had in public speaking rather than the usual words preceding the phrase public speaking which is ‘the fear of!

Share

Simon Bucknall takes 2nd place in the 2017 World Championship of Public Speaking

A great result for the UK, Simon Bucknall having progressed from his London based club up through the various contests to the international stage and the World Championships.

If you have 8 mins to spare, grab a cuppa and watch Simon’s speech (see below) plus others from the final to see what is possible by learning the skill of public speaking and by participanting in the speaking contests offered through Toastmasters. If you are interested you can find your local speaking club by searching here.

Click on the play button below to play the video and enjoy 🙂

Share

What have social media and Marmite got in common?

I know social media is a little bit like Marmite, you either ‘love it or you hate it’! I have over the past few years tended toward the less positive response, but, that said, I have recently changed my mind. I shall explain….

Having just taken on the role of PR for the Tunbridge Wells Speakers Club and I have used Meet Up before but not for a few years. It is a website site that allows you to post news of any group meeting to the world whatever the topic, rambling, knitting, car repairs, Shakespeare or in our case, public speaking. I was a little sceptical but thought, well you don’t know until you try and I must admit what happened left me more than surprised. At the time of writing this we have in only 3 weeks gained 22 members to the Meet Up group and 4 new guests attended our last meeting on 22nd Aug. Ok, I can hear you thinking, 4 people, is that all, now hold on a second.

As Francis Drake said; “Great things have small beginnings”

So I am sticking with Francis on this one. Each of those four people know many others so in a few weeks with those four, and the 18 we haven’t yet met, it may be we have too many people for our meeting and we need to find a bigger room! What a great place to be in. Ok, ok, calm down I can hear you thinking, but isn’t it fun to ask ….what if.

Well, what I am pretty certain of is that without Meet Up we might have had one new person, perhaps two but 100% more than that, I doubt it. So, the long and short of it is, social media has worked and helped up connect to other interested in public speaking that we probably would not have reached. Overall, it was fantastic result, it was great to welcome so many new guests and we want to welcome a lot more. In fact, in our table topics Julia took on the experienced members and jointly shares the glory of the table topics trophy (see below). So, if you are reading this and have thoght about coming along and finding out about improving your public speaking then perhaps, just perhaps you might be one of three, four or five new guests at our next meeting.

That said, however many guests there are at the next meeting on 12th Sept, there will be a smiling face to welcome you. In fact the 12th Sept will hopefully feature lots of smiling faces as it is the annual Humorous Speech Contest night. It will feature up to 4 speakers each giving a speech 5-7 minutes long. If you are free that night and you are tempted to come along please be our guest and we can have a chat in the break to find out what the club might offer you.

Share

Are you a untapped fountain of knowledge?

The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Nelson Mandela

I recently returned from a short trip to Kerry in Ireland, as is the way in Ireland I got chatting to people, a lot!!

As we talked I often got onto the topic of the speakers club and public speaking in general. The agreement from most was that public speaking was an exceptionally scary thing to do and something they would shy away from at any opportunity. No story from my short time away was more interesting than a gentleman who, a few years ago, had written an article on a soldier at the Battle of Trafalgar. This article was very well received in the historic fraternity and as a result he received numerous invitations to go and speak about this. One such invite came from a meeting being held at Oxford University, I would love to say he went along and spoke and that led to other engagements and he now makes his living talking about the naval things he is passionate about. I would like to say that because that is the fairy tale that I played out in my head when listening to him.

However, as you might imagine, that is not what played out, he did not speak at that meeting, or any of the others he was invited to. Now, I am not saying that was the wrong thing to do but his fear stopped him unlocking opportunities which could have changed his life.

As you might imagine I am an optimist, I imagine good things will happen, I see opportunity in most things and creating new possibilities. We are not all like that but his fear of public speaking held him man back. He is happy in his life now, and so I am happy about that. But, we don’t know what else might have happened, could creating an alternative path have helped him be even happier? The film Sliding Doors visually creates this idea of alternative lives based on the small things that happen each day.

So if you are like this guy, if you have opportunities to speak about topics you are knowledgeable on, I say don’t miss that chance, ask yourself what is the worst that can happen? Face that fear and stand up and speak and create new possibilities

The 10th Oct is Face your Fears day, if public speaking is one you want to crack then come along to one of our meetings and you will find a warm, welcoming bunch who want to see you learn, grow and succeed.

What have you got to lose, little. What have you got to gain, well that is to be seen?……………..

Tunbridge Wells Speakers club – we meet every 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month. Come along for free as a guest and see what it’s all about. Click here for details.

Chris 🙂

 

Share

8th Aug 2017 Meeting

I have just walked in from tonight’s meeting so keen to let people know how it went.

We were delighted to welcome two guests tonight and our two newest members. Indu who has been part of toastmasters in India and Eddie who has visited us once before so great to see him back again. What was lovely was they gave some fantastic feedback about how we ran things as we are keen to see what people think and share their experiences. Indu shared experiences she has of Toastmasters in India and gave us some ideas about how we might jazz up the Table Topics so watch this space……

We only had one speech tonight which was from me and it was my second speech from the Competent Communicator manual so it was focused on organising a speech. The title was ‘ Are you a lucky or an unlucky person’, the speech talked about The Luck Factor by Richard Wiseman and translated this into lessons we might all take on board to welcome more luck into our lives! As with each speech given at Toastmasters there was a full and excellent evaluation, this time from Graham Archbold which helps the speaker identify not only what they did well but also what they might do differently to further improve both the speech and their abilities as a speaker.

With the extra time we had, we fitted in two rounds of Table Topics, these are impromptu speeches delivered for a minute, so the adrenaline rush hit most people twice tonight. The topics varied from; ‘Home is your Sanctuary’, to; ‘If you could ask one person from any point in time one question who would it be and what would your question be’.

Our proud winners tonight were Ritesh and Katy, Katy wasn’t so keen to be in the photo so you’ll have to imagine her standing on the right in the picture below 🙂

Overall a great evening despite being light on speeches it meant that everyone had at least two opportunities to stand up and speak and hence get evaluated.

Thanks goes to everyone this evening and our next meeting is on Tues 22nd August from 7.15pm upstairs at the Tunbridge Wells Bridge Club if you’d like to come along please just turn up and you will be made most welcome.

Picture of Table Topics Winner Ritesh and Katy 8th Aug 2017

Share

We are back :-)

Tunbridge Wells Speakers Club has had a short break on the blog front but the good news the club is still going strong and we will again be posting regular on what we have been up to so it gives anyone reading this a good idea of what we do and whether that is something you might want to be part of.

So, to refresh what we are about. If you need to give a speech, you are nervous about speaking in front of people and or want to improve your speaking skills, whatever it is, coming along to the Speakers Club will help you take a step in the right direction.

There is a great summary of what we do on the website which you can read here. Those that have visited recently have commented on the friendly welcoming atmosphere and that goes through the heart of what the club is about. As we are part of Toastmaster International any speaker receives friendly and constructive evaluation of any speech they give so over time and with practise you can grow in your skill and confidence. We all share the same passion regarding getting better at speaking and the added bonus is you do this in a friendly, fun and supportive environment. You can progress at whatever pace you want so even if you just want to visit and see what it’s like then come in and meet everyone then pop along and see what it is all about.

Below is a picture of Steve Edwards winning last weeks table topics speaking about Donald Trump, these are impromptu 1-2min speeches which you can choose to participate in to improve your ability to speak ‘off the cuff’

 

Share

It’s a TREAT…

At the end of every meeting the President always invites any guests that have attended to give some feedback on their experience of the evening. It is a two way thing isn’t it? We want to make sure that our guests have enjoyed themselves, and their feedback helps us to consider ways we can improve. Last night was no exception and it was rewarding to hear when our guest replied ” I have thoroughly enjoyed myself and I did not expect to laugh so much” 

Table Topics is a regular feature of every Tunbridge Wells Speakers meeting and it provides an opportunity for people to give an impromptu speech, lasting around 2 minutes, on a subject determined by the Table Topics Master. No-one is forced to take part and guests do, on occasion, decide to be spectators only, as they acclimatise to the environment of a meeting.  Last night our guest opted not to participate and sat happily laughing and enjoying all the other two minute contributions by the members of the club. At the end however, when the Table Topics Master was about to pass the responsibility of the meeting back to the Toastmaster, our guests hand shot up and with a smile she asked “can I do one”? I believe taking that plunge and summoning the courage to get involved helped to contribute to an enjoyable and rewarding evening for her, and that rewarding feeling was extended to everyone, as we have all been in that place, hesitant and a little anxious, concerned what people may think of us, nervous at making ourselves vulnerable.

District 91 of Toastmaster International held their Spring 2016 conference in London last weekend. One of the afternoon workshops was facilitated by Elizabeth Toohig and her subject was “Table Topics. It’s a TREAT!” During her workshop Elizabeth shared some of the strategies she adopted which helped her prepare for the 2014 District 91 Table Topics contest, which she won. Clearly it was a winning strategy for Elizabeth and full details can be found on her website by following this link 

The strategy outlined by Elizabeth is not limited just to Table Topics and can be adopted to help with all sorts of life events, like business meetings, interviews, impromptu talks at weddings or parties, there is no end to the value that can be gained.

It would be great to see more guests joining us for an evening, if only to find out what goes on and discover why people enjoy themselves so much…

Share

Half of us is other people…

I borrowed the heading for this post from the 5th Chapter, entitled Do I need you?, of David Eagleman’s book “the Brain – The Story of you”, and I’m using it because we had such a fun meeting this week at Tunbridge Wells Speakers Club. The energy in the room vibrated as we welcomed 9 guests, some new and some who had visited us before.  They got involved in the warm-up, where the Toastmaster for the evening helps relax people by creating an opportunity for people to say a few words based on a random suggestion. This week, the suggestion was to provide 3 uses for a paperclip other than what it was designed for. And then later in the evening, after the main speeches, they  all volunteered to take part in the Table Topics session, which was beautifully facilitated by Richard Green who provided some challenging and interesting topics for us to attempt to speak about for up to 2 minutes.

Was it a stretch for some of us? The answer has to be a yes, and that’s the point, isn’t it, to find a comfortable and safe place you can learn, a place to develop a new skill and to increase your confidence? In his book, David Eagleman asks the question,

“What does your brain need to function normally? Beyond the nutrients from the food you eat, beyond the oxygen you breathe, beyond the water you drink, there’s something else, something equally as important: It needs other people. Normal brain function depends on the social web around us. Our neurons require other people’s neurons to thrive and survive.” 

It’s exciting to see us growing as a club. Each new visitor brings along new benefits and new opportunities to share stories, to interact, to learn from one another and grow as individuals.

We hope to see you soon.

 

Share